In the previous chapter, I described the usefulness of always speaking ill of EVERYONE in their absence, and I explained how this is a strategy of applying the Roman saying "Divide and Conquer."
The second way to apply this strategy is to DIRECTLY PREVENT/PUNISH/OBSTRUCT relationships between people. This is obviously a much more invasive method, even more so because, as I mentioned, it is usually applied towards people with whom one has close relationships, the English would call it the "inner circle," so it is used more rarely, but it can yield even more powerful and lasting results.
There are two methods to apply it: either you directly threaten person A if they have direct contact with person B, or you make life impossible for both at the slightest sign of direct contact. Miriam only uses the latter variant, while among men who frequent the "dark world," the first method is more popular.
The first time someone tried to apply this principle to me, I was speechless. It was a very young pusher with a reputation for being "tough," who had started a rehabilitation path with me but turned out to be simply ill-intentioned.
This person, whom I will now call Bminus, while I was following him, had been stabbed, precisely as a result of reckless actions that characterized him and created his image, and when I went to visit him in the hospital, I developed a relationship of trust with his parents, whom I had already contacted to inform them of my activity with him (by the way: in the hospital, ONLY his parents and I showed up).
When it became clear that Bminus, despite the stabbing and numerous other problems, had resumed his old habits (assuming he ever stopped), I felt it was my duty to keep his father informed of what was happening to him whenever I had news. So, for example, when I saw Bminus at improbable hours in the cheerful company of known pushers, I took photos with my cell phone and sent them directly to his father, the same when I saw him hand-in-hand with underage girls, as Bminus, among other misdeeds, had ruined a girl's life after having a child with her.
And here's the attempt to apply the "divide and conquer" strategy: One evening Bminus showed up at my house and ordered me to avoid any contact with his family, initially without giving any reason, then, at my request, justifying it with his alleged right to "keep the family out of it."
I immediately explained to Bminus that his proposal was unacceptable, if only because of the commitments I had made to his father, but he did not give up: a few days later, while I was sitting at a table in a square bar, he showed up, returning to the charge with direct threats against me.
What surprised me about his attitude during the second meeting was that he didn't remember either that I had already firmly said NO to him or WHAT I had replied, that is, it was evident that my reasons were literally INCOMPREHENSIBLE to him. For him, cutting off relationships between two people using threats was such a common action that he considered it his sacred right!
And now the example of applying the second method, again on me, but by Miriam.
I had been contacted again by a girl I had met in my work as a Computer Science teacher, whom I will now call Perla, with whom I had agreed on a hypnosis/coaching session. I can't write what the goal of the session with Perla was, but I can say she was more than satisfied with the results.
Miriam had always insisted that ours was EXCLUSIVELY a friendship, so I was stunned when she contacted me and, upon learning that I was in the company of a woman, went into a rage.
Miriam's reaction was felt for over a week, in addition to the usual silences, blocks on WhatsApp, blocks on calls/SMS, orders not to contact her for any reason, and detailed chronicles of her exes' best sexual performances, she continued to torment me by mentioning my "hookup with Pearl" in EVERY SINGLE CHAT or PHONE CALL she deigned to grant me.
Finally, she demanded to reconstruct my movements on the day of the session minute by minute, forcing me to account for them with attitudes worthy of a STASI interrogation, for HOURS.
Once again, Miriam's methods proved effective; in an attempt to calm her, I postponed the next session with Pearl with an excuse!